HEAL FROM INTIMATE PARTNER BETRAYAL WITH EXPERT HELP

Sexual Betrayal Trauma Recovery

Have you discovered your partner’s devastating secrets? Feeling shocked, lost and let down by the lying, cheating and betrayal?

Get Help From An Expert Who Understands Sexual Betrayal Trauma

Rhian Kivits, Relate qualified Therapist and Deceptive Sexuality & Trauma Therapist, can help if your world has been torn apart by your partner’s serial cheating, sex addiction, internet misuse, use of paid sexual services or other forms of problematic sexual behaviour.

She combines her professional knowledge of the best trauma-informed interventions with a wealth of experience helping betrayed partners and couples heal and repair their relationships.

In addition, she offers valuable psycho-education and insight into the sexually deceptive behaviours and motivations of cheating partners, helping you understand and break free from the unhealthy dynamics and patterns that have been playing out in your relationship.

Rhian offers a safe space to help you find stability, understand and process the reality of what has happened, find relief from the symptoms of sexual betrayal trauma, reconnect to yourself and explore healthy future relationships. She also helps a limited number of couples who are ready to address the impact of infidelity, deceptive sexuality and betrayal on their relationships.

Rhian has trained with Dr Omar Minwalla as a Deceptive Sexuality & Trauma Therapist (DSTT). She has completed the APSATS (The Association Of Partners Of Sex Addicts Trauma Specialists) Multi-Dimensional Partner Trauma Model training as well as Relate training in Couples & Affairs and a professional development program that covered working with sex addiction, supporting the partners of sex addicts and helping couples impacted by sex addiction.

Manage The Crisis Of Discovery Or Disclosure

Manage the crisis as you make important decisions to ensure that you’re safe, protected and able to cope after you’ve discovered your partner’s sexual infidelity and betrayal.

Create Stability For Your Body & Mind

Learn tools to soothe your distress, restore calm and manage your emotions so that you feel more present and balanced as you navigate your recovery process.

Manage Betrayal Trauma Symptoms

Gain self-awareness as you identify and manage the relationship trauma symptoms that are impacting your mind, body, life and relationships after discovery or disclosure.

Stop The Harm Of Deceptive Sexuality

Understand the relationship behaviours that have been impacting you and start putting yourself and your healing first so you’re no longer being harmed by denial and excuses.

Make Sense Of What Has Happened

Come to understand why and how your partner came to build a secret sexual life, release self-blame and work through the grief, anger and crippling shame you’re feeling.

Heal The Wounds Of Sexual Betrayal

Examine how sexual deception and cheating has damaged your view of yourself, others and the world. Heal the wounds that and process the feelings you’re experiencing.

Repair, Rebuild & Move Forward, Powerfully

Reconnect with the parts of yourself that have been lost and stolen by acts of betrayal. Learn what accountability and relationship repair must look like if you choose to reconcile with your partner.

Make The Right Choices For Your Relationships

Embrace your voice and become deeply committed to your core values, boundaries, desires and expectations as you practice healthy, secure relationship behaviours.

THIS IS A SPECIALIST, PREMIUM THERAPEUTIC SERVICE FOR CLIENTS ANYWHERE IN THE WORLD, ALIGNED WITH THE DST CLINICAL MODEL

The sexual deception and betrayal were not within your control. But you can choose recovery.

What’s The Process?

When you seek Rhian’s help as a betrayed partner, you’ll receive the care and support you deserve.

You’ll be invited to participate in Rhian’s structured, therapetic program, Recovery Compass, which provides psycho-education, nervous system support tools and exercises for your recovery and healing.

There is the option to work through the program at your own pace, or to participate in a small therapeutic process group alongside other women going through a parallel experience of sexual deception and betrayal.

Whichever option you choose, you’ll have the opportunity to ask Rhian your specific questions so that you’re fully supported.

Rhian still offers a very limited amount of 1:1 help to women who are program members, but there may be a waiting list for availability.

Everything in the program is designed to be applied to your circumstances, relationship history, family situation and other factors that may influence your choices and direction.

You may have decided to stay with your partner, or you may not yet be certain about whether you can continue the relationship. Alternatively you may be separated or getting divorced. Whatever your situation, Rhian can help you recover.

Rhian’s stance is partner-centric and grounded in the principles of restorative justice.

Her approach is shaped by her wealth of experience supporting betrayed partners and couples, and informed by the Deceptive Sexuality and Trauma clinical model by Dr Omar Minwalla, of the Institute Of Sexual Health.

Process group calls take place within the UK time zone, however clients can participate from wherever they are in the world.

Take action now to move beyond the pain and trauma of sexual deception and betrayal and come home to yourself.

When you first discover your partner’s sexual behaviours, it can feel as though your entire world has shattered in an instant. But how you cope with that shock and pain, however, can vary greatly from one person to another:

Perhaps you’ve gone into survival mode – numbing yourself, pushing through, and carrying on with your daily responsibilities, whether it’s managing work or caring for your children.

Or maybe you’ve been overwhelmed, swept away by waves of grief, shifting from anger to sadness and back again as you struggle to hold it all together.

It’s also possible that you’ve been in both places, getting through each day, yet surrendering to your distress once the curtains are closed at night.

If you’ve come to realise that you’ve lost sight of who you were before the betrayal, you owe it to yourself to heal. It’s time to make an important choice – to refuse to let this experience define you.

It’s time to return home to yourself and rebuild your life, one step at a time, whether you stay or go.

RHIAN’S EXPERT COMMENT IS OFTEN FEATURED IN THE NATIONAL AND INTERNATIONAL PRESS – CLICK HERE TO READ HER ADVICE IN A DAILY TELEGRAPH ARTICLE ON BETRAYAL TRAUMA.

FREE RESOURCE

You’ve discovered your partner’s hidden sexual secrets, and now you’re desperately trying to make sense of what’s happened, what it means for your marriage and whether recovery is possible.

There’s so much to navigate after discovery, and knowing what should happen next isn’t always straightforward.

The FREE After Discovery Checklist will help you gain clarity after discovering your partner’s sexual deception and betrayal.

It’s a simple 14-point self-reflection tool to help you understand what’s happening with your partner, within your relationship, and how the experience has affected you.

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Is This Right For You?

You're Feeling Stuck

You can spend hours on the internet reading and researching material about infidelity and sexual betrayal but without clear guidance you can end up feeling even more upset, confused and stuck.

Expert help is right for you if you’re ready to move forward.

Restore Clarity & Hope

It’s very common for betrayed partners to feel hopeless. Perhaps you worry that you’ll never trust again or believe you’ve been permanently damaged by what’s happened.

Working on yourself is right for you if you want to stop fearing the future and want a more positive outlook.

Invest In Yourself

If you’re sick of replaying the details of the lying and cheating in your head, tired of wondering why this happened to you and fed up of feeling anxious, drained and depressed because your family has been torn apart by your partner’s sexual deception, it’s time to invest in yourself.

Rhian’s help is right for you if you want to free your mind and body from the devastating legacy of sexual betrayal trauma.

Get In Touch

If you’d like to enquire about Rhian’s availability drop us a line and we’ll get back to you within 48 hours to discuss the next steps.

An initial assessment will help you identify your specific symptoms and struggles, ask your most pressing questions and consider the solutions that are suited to you.

The results of therapy or coaching always depend on your commitment, capacity to change and desire to work through the issues.

Please see Ts & Cs before booking.