The Narcissistic Relationship
Recovery Program

Your 12-step journey of healing after a relationship with a narcissist. Join now to recover from relationship trauma, heal your wounded heart and reclaim your life after narcissistic abuse.

Has your world been shattered by a relationship with a narcissist? Are you tired of the self-blame, self-doubt and confusion that dominates your life after narcissistic abuse? If you're ready to recover, rebuild your self-esteem and emerge stronger than ever before, you're in the right place.

Does This Sound Like You?

You're feeling overwhelmed, distressed and confused after a relationship with a narcissist.

Whether you left the relationship yourself or you were cruelly discarded by the narcissist, you're feeling upset, exhausted and shell-shocked because you're unable to make sense of the gaslighting, manipulation and heartache that you've endured.

It's time to find clarity, soothe your pain and become strong and resilient as you transform from victim to victor after narcissistic abuse. 

You're sick and tired of the narcissist taking up your head space.

Even though you've realised your ex was narcissistic, you're devastated by the grief and loss you've suffered during the relationship. Plus, you're conflicted because you can't stop thinking about them and there's a huge void in your life now.

It's time to make peace with the past and finally find put an end to the emotional turmoil as you release yourself from the narcissist's toxic grip.

You feel stuck and hopeless about the future.

You're anxious, irritable or depressed. Struggling with painful memories, flashbacks and disturbed sleep. Full of self-blame and self-doubt. And the idea of exploring new relationships is terrifying because you've lost your confidence and motivation.

It's time to restore calm and balance to your life, rest well, rebuild your self-esteem and take a step towards the bright future you desire and deserve.

With so much confusing information online about narcissists and the harm they cause in relationships, it can be hard to know how to begin your own healing journey. I'm here to guide and support you.

Meet Rhian, Specialist Therapist, Educator & Founder Of The Narcissistic Relationship Recovery Program 

As a survivor of narcissistic abuse herself, Rhian Kivits combines her professional training as a Sex and Relationship Therapist and her embodied knowledge, making her a true expert in the field of relationship trauma. 

Rhian has studied and worked extensively with complex trauma (cPTSD) and personality disorder and has the rare advantage of having encountered many perpetrators and survivors of narcissistic relationships in the therapy room. 

She has a wealth of specialist training and experience helping people overcome narcissistic abuse. Her style draws upon trauma-focused cognitive (mind), somatic (body-based) and holistic approaches that are considered the gold-standard for treating relationship difficulties, attachment issues, childhood trauma and cPTSD.

You Deserve To Heal, Rise And Love Again After Narcissistic Abuse

The Narcissistic Relationship Recovery Program is perfect for you if:

Your life feels unmanageable after a relationship with a narcissist. You feel heartbroken and overwhelmed and things aren't getting any better.
You can't get over the gaslighting, manipulation, lies, betrayal and cruelty you endured during the relationship, no matter how hard you try.
You're sick and tired of obsessing about the narcissist and the relationship. And you're fed up with wondering if you're to blame for the abuse.
Your confidence and self-worth has been eroded, you're worried that you're not able to have a healthy relationship and it feels impossible to move on.

Imagine how your life and relationships will change when you have:

Skills and strategies to overcome the debilitating symptoms of narcissistic trauma, manage your distress and restore calm and balance to your life.
Therapeutic tools to process the traumatic events you've experienced and heal the wounds you sustained at the hands of the narcissist.
Freedom from the confusion, pain and self-blame that holds you back as you finally heal and grow beyond relationship trauma.
Guidance to help you reconnect with yourself,  boost your self-worth and create safe, secure relationships as you embrace love and life again.

The Narcissistic Relationship Recovery Program

When you're suffering from the symptoms of complex trauma as a result of the psychological damage caused by the narcissist's gaslighting, manipulation, lies and lack of empathy, 'just giving it time' won't heal the wounds. 

You need to take action in order to heal the pain and reclaim your life.

WE START ON MON 8th JANUARY 2024

12 Steps To Transform From Victim To Victor

Follow a powerful 12-step curriculum, developed in line with the three-phase model of trauma recovery, that guides you from overwhelm, self-blame and fear to peace, clarity and confidence. Benefit from a truly holistic package of therapeutic training sessions, personal development resources/worksheets, a support community, somatic healing exercises and relaxation practices to heal your brain and nervous system.

phase one

Establish Safety

During the first phase of recovery you will reduce your level of distress, calm your activated nervous system and find a felt sense of safety so that the impact of narcissistic abuse no longer dominates your daily life.

STEP ONE | SET STRONG INTENTIONS
Acknowledge how you’ve been wounded, traumatised and changed by narcissistic abuse. Identify how this has made your life and relationships unmanageable and make a personalised plan for your healing process.
STEP TWO | CHOOSE TO HEAL
Embrace your mind and body's incredible capacity to heal from narcissistic trauma, learn how to respond to your distress and begin a program of somatic healing practices to support your recovery.
STEP THREE | RESTORE CALM AND BALANCE
Finally begin to feel safe again as you learn skills to free yourself from fear, overwhelm, emotional reactivity or numbness, sleep disturbance, flashbacks and other symptoms of narcissistic relationship trauma.
STEP FOUR | RECLAIM YOUR POWER AND FREEDOM
Release self-blame, guilt and shame and reclaim your power so that you are no longer silenced and diminished by the narcissist.

phase two

Process Narcissistic Trauma

During the second phase of recovery you will work through the grief, loss and heartache of the abuse and explore your own behaviour patterns and styles in relationships.

STEP FIVE | REPAIR THE DAMAGE
Make a clear and honest inventory of your wounds and repair the damage that you have sustained as a result of abusive behaviours like gaslighting, coercive control, isolation, infidelity, betrayal, criticism, humiliation, denial and the projection of blame.
STEP SIX | SOOTHE THE PAIN
Work through your grief and loss as you heal your wounded parts compassionately and courageously.
STEP SEVEN | BREAK THE CYCLES
Address the codependent, love-addicted patterns and insecure behaviours that kept you trapped in the drama and chaos of a narcissistic relationship.
STEP EIGHT | UNDERSTAND EARLY LIFE INFLUENCES
Mindfully examine factors in your childhood that may have predisposed you to narcissistic abuse and toxic relationships, including adverse childhood experiences, attachment wounds and the development of your conflict style.

phase three

Embrace Post-Traumatic Growth

During the third and final phase of recovery you will discover a new version of yourself who is no longer defined by narcissistic abuse. You will become powerful, confident, resilient, aligned with healthy relationships and ready to build a meaningful future.

STEP NINE | RECONNECT TO YOUR TRUE SELF
Transform unhelpful beliefs about yourself, relationships and the world so that you can love, trust and embrace emotional availability.
STEP TEN | EXPLORE HEALTHY RELATIONSHIPS
Learn how to show up independently in future relationships as you embrace self-awareness, self-care and secure communication skills.
STEP ELEVEN | LOVE AND ACCEPT YOURSELF
Choose to love, accept and value all parts of yourself through self-love, self-parenting and self-partnering and start seeing yourself as a person who has grown beyond narcissistic trauma.
STEP TWELVE | START LIVING YOUR BEST LIFE
Embrace a new sense of resilience and foster a growth mindset as you consciously create a fulfilling and meaningful life free from the devastating legacy of narcissistic abuse.

PSYCHOEDUCATION

12 powerful and transformative healing steps to guide you to recovery after a relationship with a narcissist.

PERSONAL GROWTH

Self-inquiry tasks and journaling worksheets to support you fully with your unique personal healing process.

MIND-BODY THERAPY

Somatic healing exercises for your brain and nervous system as you overcome the symptoms of trauma.

TRAUMA RECOVERY

Mindful guided relaxation processes with trauma-informed holistic approaches for rest, repair and deep healing.

Plus You'll Get Six Brilliant Bonuses To Enhance Your Recovery Journey

The journey of recovery after a relationship with a narcissist can bring up issues in almost every area of your life. Your bonuses have been designed to enhance your healing and offer you the opportunity to share, seek support and get all your questions personally answered as you work through the program.

 BONUS 1 | safeR SPACE community

Lifetime access* to a safer-space community of likeminded women for sharing, encouragement and connection.

BONUS 2 | Q&A CALLS
WITH RHIAN

Live and replay access to regular group Q&A calls with Rhian so that your questions and obstacles can be addressed.

BONUS 4 | YOUR BOUNDARIES E-guide

Learn how to embrace boundaries and feel seen and heard in relationships as you move forward after narcissistic abuse.

BONUS 5 |  HEALING AFFIRMATIONS E-GUIDE

Learn how to use positive affirmations for self-healing as you rebuild your self-esteem after narcissistic abuse.

BONUS 6 | TAME YOUR SELF-CRITIC E-GUIDE

Learn how to become more compassionate with yourself and release the self-criticism and self-judgement that holds you back.

BONUS 3 |SAFER DATING E-guide

Learn about the principles of safer dating and recognise red flags in potential partners after narcissistic abuse.

Release yourself from the devastating pain of narcissistic trauma, heal your wounded heart, restore your sense of self and finally feel free to start loving and living again.

12-STEP CURRICULUM

The 12-step, 3-phase curriculum is informed by solid therapeutic approaches including Psychodynamic Therapy, Trauma-Focused CBT, Schema Therapy, Compassion-focused Therapy, Mindfulness and Parts Work.

HEALING RESOURCES

Benefit from an integrated solution, drawing upon gold-standard holistic approaches to trauma healing including polyvagal-informed somatic exercises, breathwork, sound therapy and yoga nidra.

HELP & SUPPORT

You will be fully supported as a valued member of our exclusive healing community, with answers provided for all your questions as you work through the program. Choose the gold membership option for 1:1 support.

Membership Options

All members receive lifetime access* to The Narcissistic Relationship Recovery Program including any updates or new content added over time.

USD payment options are available for USA or international clients.
GBP payment options are available for the United Kingdom.

WE START ON MON 8th JANUARY 2024

bronze membership

$111

Six monthly Payments

6 x payments of $111 USD gives you Lifetime* access to the following benefits, with content delivered over 6 months:

12-step therapeutic curriculum delivered over 6 months
Program resources including self-help and journaling worksheets
Healing sessions including somatic exercises and guided relaxation processes
Bonus Q&A group calls with Rhian
Bonus safe-space support community
4 bonus e-guides written by Rhian
4 x 1:1 VIP sessions with Rhian

Best Value

silver membership

$597

One Time

1 x payment of $597 USD gives you Lifetime* access to the following benefits, with content delivered over 6 months:

 12-step therapeutic curriculum delivered over 6 months
Program resources including self-help and journaling worksheets
Healing sessions including somatic exercises and guided relaxation processes
Bonus Q&A group calls with Rhian
Bonus safe-space support community
4 bonus e-guides written by Rhian
4 x 1:1 VIP sessions with Rhian

gold VIP membership

$997

One time

1 x payment of $997 USD gives you Lifetime* access to the following benefits, with content delivered over 6 months:

12-step therapeutic curriculum delivered over 6 months
Program resources including self-help and journaling worksheets
Healing sessions including somatic exercises and guided relaxation processes
Bonus Q&A group calls with Rhian
Bonus safe-space support community
4 bonus e-guides written by Rhian
4 x bonus 1:1 VIP sessions with Rhian

bronze membership

£88

Six monthly Payments

6 x payments of £88 GBP gives you Lifetime* access to the following benefits, with content delivered over 6 months:

12-step therapeutic curriculum delivered over 6 months
Program resources including self-help and journaling worksheets
Healing sessions including somatic exercises and guided relaxation processes
Bonus Q&A group calls with Rhian
Bonus safe-space support community
4 bonus e-guides written by Rhian
4 x 1:1 VIP sessions with Rhian

Best Value

silver membership

£497

One Time

1 x payment of £497 GBP gives you Lifetime* access to the following benefits, with content delivered over 6 months:

 12-step therapeutic curriculum delivered over 6 months
Program resources including self-help and journaling worksheets
Healing sessions including somatic exercises and guided relaxation processes
Bonus Q&A group calls with Rhian
Bonus safe-space support community
4 bonus e-guides written by Rhian
4 x 1:1 VIP sessions with Rhian

gold VIP membership

£837

One time

1 x payment of £837 GBP gives you Lifetime* access to the following benefits, with content delivered over 6 months:

12-step therapeutic curriculum delivered over 6 months
Program resources including self-help and journaling worksheets
Healing sessions including somatic exercises and guided relaxation processes
Bonus Q&A group calls with Rhian
Bonus safe-space support community
4 bonus e-guides written by Rhian
4 x bonus 1:1 VIP sessions with Rhian

Client Love

Rhian has received a wealth of positive feedback from clients who have worked with her 1:1 or attended her groups and programs. Here are some of the things people say:

"I Healed Myself"

Rhian is an amazing teacher. She’s so compassionate, gentle, understanding and magical. She doesn’t judge you and she’s very powerful. She started teaching me about self-love and that’s when I started to bloom. I took off like a rocket and healed myself.

Vivian

USA

I've been single for 11 years and I'm ready for that next chapter. However I knew I still needed to do some work on myself before venturing down that path. The time spent with Rhian was so healing. She supported me in such a loving way that has helped me shift some energies in my life.

Kelly

USA

Rhian's vast and diverse knowledge enables her to find, guide and counsel you through your personal challenges. She builds a unique bond with you, easily allowing you to trust her. Thanks to Rhian (and her patience) I feel empowered, confident and worthy. She is amazing.

Cherie

UK

Got questions? Drop us a line!

If you want to ask a question to help you decide whether this program is right for you drop us a line at info@rhiankivits.com. We'll respond to you within 24 hrs.

Frequently Asked Questions

Why is Rhian the best person to help me?

Unlike many providers of online narcissistic abuse recovery programs, Rhian is a professionally qualified Sex and Relationship Therapist with specialist training in many evidence-based modalities and a wealth of experience.

She previously delivered Therapy with Relate, the UK's national provider for relationship support and worked as a mentor for the mental health charity, Mind. She is also a PGCE qualified Teacher and Trainer of Adults who has delivered many programs of education to individuals and groups.

Rhian's expert opinion is often featured in the media and she receives a great deal of positive feedback from her clients past and present. You are in safe, professional hands with Rhian, who prides herself in offering the highest levels of service and support.

Why is this program for women only?

Although we recognise that people of all genders can be victims of narcissistic abuse, women are in the majority.

 A decision has been made to offer the program to women (including those who identify as women) only in order to keep the support community a safe space. 

We know that members may wish to ask questions about intimacy or sexual trauma and we recognise that this may only feel possible in a women-only environment.

Rhian works with men on a 1:1 basis.

Will this help me deal with a narcissistic parent, family member or employer?

This program is designed for survivors of narcissistic abuse that has occurred in partnered relationships.

Although there will be information within the program that may be useful if you have a narcissistic family member or employer, the context of the material is focused on partnered relationships.

How do I know if my ex-partner is a narcissist?

This program has been created for women who believe that they have been victims of narcissistic abuse.

For the purposes of this program, the word 'narcissist' is used to describe a person who is diagnosed with Narcissistic Personality Disorder OR an individual who displays narcissistic behaviour traits that have driven them to become perpetrators of abuse in relationships.

Many narcissists will never seek help or a diagnosis. 

This program is focused on your recovery and it is not intended as a diagnostic tool for your ex-partner.

It's therefore important to consider your own personal experience during the relationship together with your struggles and symptoms when deciding whether this program is right for you.

Can I purchase this program if I am under 18?

While we know that people under the age of 18 may suffer with narcissistic relationship trauma, this program is designed for adult women aged 18 or over.

If you are under 18, you may benefit from specialist help from a provider who works with young people.

Can anyone use somatic healing practices?

Trauma-informed somatic exercises involve gentle physical movements that are designed to help restore your mind-body connection and release tension from your body. They also promote neuroplasticity, the natural capacity of your brain for healing.

Yoga Nidra is a deeply restorative guided relaxation practice. We are not offering yoga classes or an exercise program and you do not need special clothing, yoga mats or props.

We also work with mindfulness meditation and breathing practices, with everything adapted to offer a trauma-informed solution.

The program can be enjoyed by all bodies. Each participant can choose adaptations to suit their needs and there is no right or wrong.

If you are pregnant, have vertigo, heart problems, psychosis or any other physical or mental health condition, please consult your physician before choosing to engage in breathwork, meditation or any other form of somatic exercises.

Meditation, breathwork and guided relaxation should never be practiced while under the influence of drugs or alcohol or while driving or operating machinery.

As with all guided practices, your engagement and level of participation is optional. Nothing is compulsory.

How is the program delivered?

Digital content is delivered via a dedicated members portal and you will receive an email notification each time new content is uploaded. The support community is located in a closed Facebook group.

If any live sessions are delivered these will be via Zoom and they will also be available as replay recordings in the members portal. You will receive Zoom links by email or they will be posted in the support group.

Does this program replace 1:1 therapy?

This is a comprehensive therapeutic program of education, guided self-inquiry and healing with a support community. This is different to attending talking therapy sessions because it is an integrated mind-body solution.

The program encompasses more than talking therapy alone because it has been informed by top-down (cognitive) and bottom-up (somatic, body based) approaches. Current thinking by experts suggests that this is the most effective way to heal from trauma.

You will only get 1:1 sessions with Rhian if you purchase a Gold Membership option and become a private client. 

As with any online program or therapeutic process, outcomes differ between individual students and will vary according to the time and energy you choose to invest in your healing journey.

How do you make sure the support group is a safer-space?

We cannot guarantee any group is a 100% safe space because this isn't the nature of human interaction.

However there are measures we take to make the space feel as safe and welcoming as possible for you.

These include implementing a code of conduct based on support, acceptance and encouragement rather than criticism or blame. Breaching the code of conduct may mean that you are removed from the community, as with any Facebook group.

The group is closed and private and we ask members to respect each other's confidentiality.

While we accept individuals may have differences of opinion we do ask members to be kind.

There is a no advertising, promotion or links policy implemented in the group and admin approval is enabled for all posts.

Can this program offer me legal, financial or medical advice?

Rhian is not a lawyer, financial advisor or medical doctor and so while she will be supportive, she cannot advise you on your legal rights, financial interests or physical health. 

It is important you consult the appropriate professionals if you have concerns about divorce, contact arrangements for children, property, money or your physical health.

Please note that all decisions you make are your own and you are responsible for your own well-being.

How does the payment plan work?

When you purchase the program via the six month payment plan, all six payments must be made in order for you to retain ongoing access to all program materials.

In the instance that the payment plan is not completed or payments are missed, you will lose access to both the program content and the support group. In no instance will refunds will be granted.

Do you offer refunds?

When you purchase the program you will gain access to digital content and a support group from which you will immediately benefit, therefore all purchases are final and refunds are not offered.

We do feel confident that the program material is excellent quality and we will do our best to support you and meet your needs.

What does lifetime access* mean?

'Lifetime access' means that you will have access to the program content for the lifetime of the program or the business, not for your lifetime or Rhian's lifetime.

We reserve the right to amend, update, remove or add to program content since we are committed to improving the program and the outcomes for students.

In the unlikely event we decide to close the program or the business, you will be offered the opportunity to download the program materials for your ongoing personal use.

Please note that membership of the support community is dependent upon compliance with the group rules, which have been designed to keep the group a safe-enough, friendly space that is free from advertising.

Therefore we reserve the right to remove members from the support community who do not respect the rules, with no refunds given.

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